Friday, July 1, 2011

Have You Ever Been in Love?

"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up a whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life... You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' or 'how very perceptive' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a body-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. Nothing should be able to do that. Especially not love. I hate love."
(Neil Gaiman) "Rose Walker" in The Sandman #65

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Paul Sunstone said...

Thank you for that quote!

The attitude is fairly typical, isn't it? Love hurts, so we build defenses against it, withhold it. I think the language in which that thought is expressed is exceptional, though. Gaiman rocks as a writer.

Anonymous said...

ah love keep trying everybody has crapstains sometimes but not all the time thank god happy 4th and quit sniviling maybe I am the one you never know ...I,ll be back and send you a facebook friend thing check out the flicks and holla back if you want

Anonymous said...

I should read futher you already married the AC dude and btw the wedding photo was great...how did i get to this blog anyway???

sandi StudioCentric said...

Dear Anonymous, i don't snivel. I sometimes bitch, whine, complain or tell people to fuck off, but i do not snivel. Nor does Neil Gaiman (who wrote that illustrious and beautiful quote). That is all.

Amy said...

I think I've learned recently that the defenses are what tear the love apart. Accepting vulnerability sucks ass. But, as I've learned to accept it a little at a time and open myself up to it, I've seen the love and the intimacy start to creep back into my life into and my relationship. Don't get me wrong, I've still got plenty of walls...and a moat...full of alligators...and sharks...to work through. Love is hard. But, it's the ultimate human experience...the source of most of our pain AND our happiness. What else can make life worth living? I think we all have a love/hate relationship with love.

But, I don't hate loving you! "Meeting" you has been nothing but good.

sandi said...

I don't hate loving you, either, Amy baby!

I love being in love. I fear the heartbreak when i know the other person isn't in as deep as i am. That's not enough to stop me, though ;)

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